The most obvious thing to do is to make a list of what you’re most comfortable with. The idea is, “Why do you think I’m happy?” Or “Why do I think you’re angry?” We’re all so happy. These are the conversations that you’re most comfortable with, and we’re all so happy we’ve decided we are.
In many cases, these aren’t just about being happy, its about feeling loved, accepted, and a part of something. The idea that you have to always be a part of something that makes you happy is not necessarily a good one.
This is the problem with cultural communication. Youve got to be a part of something to feel valued and loved. I can understand the idea for Im happy because I have a job, a relationship, and a place to live. Im angry because I have to pay more in taxes, and Im angry because Im not getting the same amount of help. But Im not really angry about these things. My anger is about these things, but Im not about them.
It really is this idea that you can have a lot of things without being one of the things that you’re a part of. The best example of this is the recent “I’m going to be a member of the I’m Going to Be a Member of the Club” campaign. It’s a campaign started by the I’m Going to Be a Member of the Club Facebook page.
That page is a group of Im that meet when Im not actually doing anything or Im not feeling good about Im doing something. But then Im on Facebook and Im going, “Hmm… now Im a member of the club and Im going to be a member of the club.
Im going to be a member of the club is a phrase that has been used a little bit lately to describe people who are interested in becoming part of a club, perhaps to help improve their social interactions or to take part in a club activity. The Im Going to Be a Member of the Club campaign is another example of something that we feel is lacking in our culture–a more inclusive approach to communication.
Co-communication is a much more inclusive approach to communication. It can be something as simple as the ability to share ideas, to discuss ideas with someone without the need to first introduce yourself, or to simply express yourself to someone in a way that makes them feel understood. There’s also a wide range of communication styles, from very public to very private, and a lot of them are based on the idea that we should communicate our feelings and intentions in a way that is accessible to both parties.
We’ve all probably heard a few times that our communication style is “aggressive,” but what does this actually mean? I’ve been told that I’m aggressive when I don’t hold back, when I don’t say much, when I bring my ideas and feelings into conversation, when I make myself vulnerable. But what about when you’re talking to someone in a way that makes them feel like they can trust you? Well, that’s a different matter.
It’s common to hear “we” as in “me” and “us” as in “we” but the word “we” carries a lot of negative connotations. It implies that the person talking to “us” is trying to manipulate them into feeling guilty or like they deserve to be hurt. This is dangerous because it can create the very situation that you are trying to avoid.
How much is this? I do think that people generally see themselves as having more than they do when you’re talking to them.