I’m not saying that we should be worried about our responses when we’re doing something we actually want. You’re doing something I don’t want to do. Sometimes we just need to go back and change the subject. When I say “will you please give me one second to change”, I also mean we just need to ask ourselves, “What is the point?”.
People have been taught that when we’re asked to make a decision we should answer honestly, but I think that’s a mistake. I don’t know anyone who has a problem with lying, so if they are telling the truth, it doesn’t really matter. If they are lying, they’re going to get caught and they’re going to lose the opportunity to have a better life.
I think it’s pretty clear that the people who were doing the talking were lying. Even if they were telling the truth, they were still lying. People need to remember that when we’re making decisions, we’re not making them for themselves. We’re making them for someone else. I think it’s easier to lie when you’re doing something for someone. If you’re telling someone you cant go to a movie, you might be lying about it.
Its hard to tell if the person youre speaking to is lying or not, but most of the time when you talk to them you are not looking at their face, but rather their body language.
If you are a person seeking to lie to someone about something, you will often find yourself lying even if you are not doing it for any reason. The main reason for this is that for most of us the world has a lot of things that are hard to remember. Even if we are in a good mood, we may have had a difficult day and feel like we are not in the right frame of mind to recall the details of our experience.
The goal of most persuasive practice is to get us to forget about all those things we are not in a good mood about. But it is not always easy to do that. One way to deceive someone is to claim to have done something that made them feel good about themselves when in reality they have not. Another way is to lie about how you felt when you were doing it. This is called deceptive persuasive practice.
When we make a claim to be feeling good, it is a lie. When we make a claim to be feeling bad, it is an example of deceptive persuasive practice. So instead of talking about how much you like your job, or how you were bored at work, you say you like your job. Or you say you’re not bored because you’re happy.
The other deceptive technique is called manipulation. It’s when you use your words and actions to manipulate your listener or audience into feeling satisfied or happy about what you want them to feel.
That sounds like manipulation to me, but it is actually a technique that we apply to almost every single situation. Manipulation is actually the opposite of persuasion, which you don’t want to have to work on your persuasive techniques too. It is a tactic that we use to make people feel good about something that really isn’t so good for them. I think of it as lying in a slightly different way though.
Why does convincing someone to do something that doesn’t really make them happy sound good to us? Because we get the feeling that the person we are convincing isn’t actually good at being happy. When you’re persuading someone to do something that is in their best interest, you want to make sure you’re convincing them at the right time. That’s when you want to put a little on-the-money “bait-and-switch” that will make them feel good.
